Emotional OE

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People with an emotional OE experience extremely complex emotions, both positive and negative. Feelings can be intense and they have strong emotional connections with other people, places and objects. Being compassionate, empathetic and sensitive to the needs of others they often feel what others feel, find it hard to make a distinction between their own and others feelings and have a tendency to put these feelings above their own needs. They may have deep concerns about their behaviour in relationships and the well-being of people important to them. They can also be very self-critical and experience feelings of inadequacy and inferiority.

The emotionlly OE have a deep need for connection and intensity with others, often leading to conflict over the depth of relationships. Children and teenagers and even young adults can feel very lonely as it is often hard to find such connections.

Being idealistic, they want to help others or animals and can be sad and deeply disappointed when they realise that not everybody feels so passionately.  Being overwhelmed by those intense emotions and not knowing how to be in charge of yourself and your extreme sensitivity can be daunting.

One mother described how, as she was driving hurriedly, her daughter cried, “Stop! Slow down!” When the mother asked why, the daughter replied, “We’re killing bugs on the windshield, and I’ve already seen too much death for my age!” (Webb et al, 2005).

Emotionally tense children can act out with extreme anger tantrums, become greatly upset when they lose a game or mourn for months when a new friend stops wanting to play. They are often seen to be overreacting  and think that an emotion will last forever. They can have difficulty with change and adjusting to new environments, be extremely shy and timid and are prone to being bullied. To protect themselves, these children frequently learn to hide their sensitivity. They may experience deep feelings of guilt, depression and suicidal thoughts from a very young age.

“My mother threw out my favourite red sweater, I tried very hard but I didn’t manage to get it back and I felt so deeply bereft as if I was mourning, which is silly really over a sweater, but I did feel it like that.” Melissa 15 years

Somatic expressions can also be extreme: tense stomach, sinking heart and blushing, which might add to the tension. They often remember  precisely how they and others felt in certain situations.

Dabrowski saw emotional OE as the most important. People with this excitability will have the drive to make the world a better place, not just for themselves but for everyone. Developing deep emotional bonds with family, friends, animals and charitable goals, they have a rich interpersonal life that is often used professionally.

Read more about the other areas of intensity: Psychomotor, Sensual, Intellectual, Imaginational and Emotional.

Find out if your child or teenager has OE as well

Further Reading

UK

Lucinda Leo’s blog (PowerWood Volunteer): 15 Things Your Child With Emotional Overexcitability Might Say

USA

SENG:  The gift of emotional overexcitabilities

Living With Intensity: Understanding the Sensitivity, Excitability and Emotional Development of Gifted Children, Adolescents and Adults (Book edited by Daniels and Piechowski)

Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnosis of Gifted Children and Adults (Book by a.o. James T Webb)

Jade Ann Rivera – How to identify and cope with overexcitabilities, part 1 of 5: Emotional overexcitability

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