Despite mountains of washing, I have enjoyed feeling so content after Power Wood camp. I think we all formed such a deep connection and supported each other as a team this year – it was like “intensity bathing” (rather than forest bathing) – the good feeling resulting from being with kindred. (Mum of a 9- and 6-year old)
The workshop ‘Connecting Positively with your intense, sensitive and hyper-reactive children and/or teenagers’ in London brought me greater understanding of how different people experience life and how stress cycles and responses work. I have learned techniques and got practical help for specific problems.
(Mum of 4)
I attended the workshop ‘Connecting Positively with your intense, sensitive and hyper-reactive children and/or teenagers’ in London. It was a fantastic day – lots of ‘Aha!’-moments, learning how to recognise and stop cycles, how to calm myself, and the PowerBook is a great idea. Really empowering!
Mum of a 2 year old
Can I take this opportunity to thank you for all of the work you do, together with the other volunteers, to keep this organisation going with all these new opportunities for OE families to be understood and get invaluable support.
Mum of 5 (14, 13, 11, 4 and 2)
Thank you for advice… you are right 👌..
I also want to tell you that yesterday we had a party for son’s bday, at the forest (It included a lot of organising and battling with the weather conditions, which were changing by a minute)..
before we left the house I promised myself that I will not flap around/glitch/panic or do whatever might make me regret it later (like it was the case many more times before) AND I’ve managed it!!! I’m so proud of myself, and the best thing was seeing my boys being happy and enjoying themselves freely… what a blessing! THANK YOU Simone, as you have shown me the way….
❤ mum of two boys (12 and 6)
Thank you Simone, you really helped me to see things more clearly.
I am absolutely thrilled with the support I have received from Simone. Not only was she amazingly insightful about both myself and my son but she also offered practical, tailored strategies to address our issues. I was very nervous about the coaching but Simone also has the ability to make you feel at ease. These sessions have been extremely valuable for my present situation and the foreseeable future and were therefore more than worth the financial investment, so thank you Simone! I would unreservedly recommend taking up a one hour chat to get a possible glimpse of a new perspective for your life. (Mum of one child)
I will be facilitating this great workshop with Simone de Hoogh in October in East Sussex. It is a fantastic and informative weekend and when I did it originally it was as if life made sense for the first time, not just for my child but for me as well. The weekend is full of information and strategies to help you and your intense, sensitive children. It is being held in a lovely quiet environment and if you need any information about the local area then let me know. The sense of being in the same boat with people who understand is invaluable.
When we arrived at home [after having confronted herself with her dog phobia the way she had agreed], my daughter was so happy and proud of herself that she ran to tell his dad all about it.
Simone, I couldn’t do this without you. I truly managed to be controlled/neutral/calmed and accepted all the “bullets” from my daughter without feeling pain or taking it personal or being upset. I feel that I won another little battle, not the war yet…but it is a big step for us.
Thank you very much for all the help and support. I feel re-charged and very positive now. (mum of 3 children)
Simone has helped my family so much – I would highly recommend booking a session with her. She is such a warm person and makes me feel supported and understood whilst giving me confidence in my ability to change and improve things for my family. I have never felt judged. Apart from anything else it is wonderful to speak with someone who has been there and made the mistakes…and gone on to figure out a better way. Kirsty mum of 2
I think that in general we are doing really well… two years ago in the same situation I will be panicked, stressed, unfocused… and the harmony of the house absent! Now, I feel good and able to cope , you brought my confidence back! I appreciate myself and what I do for my children. Mirtha mum of 3
I just wanted to let you know my daughter is doing fab. The first week back to school after the holidays and she hasn’t been sick at all!! She’s still not keen on it and finds friendships especially with the girls a bit of a challenge but she seems so much more able to cope with it. I think the safe space for when she was cross helped, it’s almost like everything has been softened (if that makes sense) she even takes herself away from situations now and says she’s just going to calm down and come back. Even things like getting her ready for an after school activity, she’s now able to do it herself as we started breaking things down to one thing at a time e.g can you just get changed, then what’s next? Rather than saying to her get ready we’re going to your activity which was too much for her. She seems so much more relaxed which is just lovely and it allows her and her sister to get on better too I have attached a photo from the holidays as I was very delighted with it (she and her sister holding hands previously a very rare thing☺☺). Again thank you very much for your help. Lorraine mum of 2
“Such a lovely way [Authentic Communication Training PACT-1] to develop skills and learn more about how to support each other.” Lucinda mum of 2
Really enjoying the course [Authentic Communication Training PACT-1]- it’s such a powerful way to explore an issue more deeply. I can see how useful it will be to use on myself, my family and my friends…once I have mastered it! Kirsty mum of 2
Really enjoying the course [PowerWoods Authentic Communication Training]- it’s such a powerful way to explore an issue more deeply. I can see how useful it will be to use on myself, my family and my friends…once I have mastered it! (Kirsty mum of 2)
Dear Simone, Thank you for all that info – I look forward to reading it all. I really value our Skype sessions, they are helping me make important changes that I know will benefit us all.
I feel like as a couple and a family we have been under fairly unrelenting pressure for the last decade. Change is definitely necessary for all our sakes as the stress has been taking a toll on our health and our well-being. But it is hard to do, even if you know what to do (which often we don’t). Having you there supporting and encouraging me and exploring what we need as a family makes such a difference to me – I can’t tell you how much. I love your directness as it comes with so much understanding and compassion. Thank you. (Kirsty mum of two)
Thanks so much for this afternoon. It’s such a relief being able to talk about anything at all with someone who understands what it’s like to experience life intensely!
I appreciated your coaching on all the (varied!) subjects we covered, but especially the last bit. Thank you for not being phased by anything I say, for being such a good listener and for never failing to give me practical advice. I don’t know how you do it!
The more I understand about OEs, the more everything about my life is making sense… and the more questions are bubbling up to the surface after 45 years of not even knowing how to start asking them. 😀
(Mum of two)
Always a pleasure to talking to YOU [Simone] :). I really appreciate your support and everything I learn from talking to you :). (Mum of 2)
Thanks so much for your advice Simone, it really shone light in what felt like only darkness when they blamed me, and gave me a clear way out when all I could do was panic. I am so grateful.
It [Online Group Support Video Conference] is great and really nice and without the playground politics
[Online Group Support Video Conference] Very helpful because I don’t speak to anyone in the same situation
Awareness of a sense of community [through Online Group Support Video COnference]
So helpful to share strategies and not feel so isolated, to meet [Online Group Support Video Conference] all of you
I feel like a human being, so nice we have got this [Online Group Support Video Conference]
It’s not me failing, it’s the situation and the child, and it helps to hear other stories
Hearing other people experiences
Listening to others helps a lot
We are having here [Group Support Video Conference] what other mums have at the playground
PowerWood’s Workshop has given me the information and tools I was looking for and, most importantly, it’s given me peace and strength. The process of releasing expectations has sometimes been painful, but I’m gradually finding acceptance. It’s a case of finding a way to live with the practical implications of everyone’s imaginations and emotions working overtime, so that there’s less struggle and more happiness.
Through PowerWood I’ve learned how powerful physical contact can be in helping calm down my son when he’s going ballistic. And I’ve found the communication model very useful – it really helps to engage my son’s intellect when he’s gone off on an emotional rant. With my daughter, I’ve been able to show her how she’s the generator of her imagination, which means she can find some control over what she’s imagining, even her bad dreams. (Mum of 3)
Thank you so much for the session last week – it was truly valuable. It has opened up some really good communication between us all and I have actually really enjoyed spotting my involuntary responses and remembering to be proud of the awareness. I know it will lead to a healthier connection between us. Thanks again, you really stayed with us through a long and intense session, I appreciated that. (Mum of an 18year old)
I always like to hear you speak. You have such a gift for communicating – you share complex ideas clearly and simply and warmly – with emotional and intellectual strength. I am grateful for it! Claire mum of 3 children
You are such an effective coach and a powerful communicator, and what you say makes so much sense. Lucinda, mum of 2
I just want to affirm how valuable I have found the sessions to be so far and how effective the tools and strategies are in our daily lives. Emma mum of 5
Emma mum of 5
It is amazing how my son is progressing and thriving. I am so proud of him. I am convinced that your support was the first brick for all these results. You helped me so much with the one to one sessions, explaining me with so much sense and making me understand much more of my family. Thank you very much!
Mirtha mum of three children
I wanted to say that I loved the atmosphere at PowerWood; it felt genuinely respectful, and gentle, and that there was a willingness from everyone to ‘meet’ and support each other. To explore together. To me this was sooo wonderful – I live a lot of my life at the moment in our immediate community (where we live, school etc), and I don’t find that level of reflection. It’s like a home-coming – being around people who are self-aware (of their O.E.’s etc) and open also to accepting and exploring those of their children. I also think you offered a really rich, varied and thoughtful and most of all – nourishing – programme of activities.
Abigail, mum of a 5 and 7 year old
Thank you very much for your support [individual sessions], it really makes a difference!
It [PowerWood workshop] was really great – particularly the ten minute clinic – very thought provoking
… just wanted to thank you for such an amazing week, I am completely revived, focussed and happier and I hope that you will have us at camp again! Warmest wishes to your wonderful family, who helped in so many ways to make the camp very special and supportive.
..say an enormous thank you for the camp last week!
I really did have the nicest time – I came away totally uplifted, inspired and excited about helping to raise awareness about OEs.
And my challenges with camping were a perfect reminder of what it’s like to feel overwhelmed and in search of safety! More empathy with my children definitely = a good thing 🙂
I am so appreciative to you, Nic, your children and all the other lovely volunteers who made the event possible. (Especially Janet for the fragrant toilet experience.)
Lucinda, mum of 2 PowerWood Camp 2015
When I came across Powerwood, on the advice of a friend, I was very unsure about whether to attend. I am not usually keen on parenting workshops or parenting theories, as I often find them quite dogmatic. But Simone’s amazing workshop was nothing like how I thought it would be. Attending the Powerwood workshop has been a transformation experience for our family. It gave us the opportunity to see that our son’s intense and excitable behaviour wasn’t a problem to be battled or controlled, but something to be nurtured. We appreciate his intensity and have learnt how to help him cope with his often intense and overwhelming feelings.
It helped me too understand myself so much more, as someone who is also overexcitble, and the techniques we have learnt have helped us as a family learn to work and help each other in a much more positive way. I used to think that I was strange and very different from my friends. Although I had come to some kind of peace with that by this age, learning why I was like this, and how I can help myself to create balance and harmony within myself had been invaluable. I couldn’t recommend this workshop enough for anyone who feels they or members of their family might be be overexcitable. Simone is amazingly supportive and generous with her knowledge and skills – and most importantly creates a space that is non-judgmental and kind.
Diana, mum of two
My husband and I came on one of your one day workshops a little while back [one year ago] and it was amazing, we are still seeing the benefits within our family.
Diana, mum of two
My new awareness of OE has been helping me enormously with my daughter today. She always gets very intense down here at our house at the coast, where she’s with other children much more than usual. We spent hours together after which she was finally restored to balance. Knowing that she is emotionally OE like me (and unlike most of her friends) helped so much – thank you!
Mum of an 11yr old daughter and 9 yr old son
Thank you so much for today. No one has ever listened to me and understood like that before. I meditated after we spoke and felt very peaceful all afternoon.
Mum of an 11yr old daughter and 9 yr old son
Thank you for a really uplifting session this morning. I feel very empowered every time I leave.
Ceri, mum of two teenage girls
Thanks so much. It’s great to have some new tools to help me be a better mum.
Thank you so much for this [email with further information] and for yesterday [one-to-one session by Skype]- it was a pleasure for me too and VERY useful. So many ideas from one conversation!
Mum of an 11yr old daughter and 9 yr old son
Attending Simone’s workshop was informative, thought provoking and nurturing, with the added bonus of being surrounded by like-minded mothers that ‘got it’. Not only did we learn about excitable behavior, but we were made aware of how we need to look after ourselves, especially when we have children that need so much from us. Despite already having had private phone sessions with Simone, it was good to come along to get an overall picture of the condition, get involved with discussion groups and learn more. At the end we had a chance to ask Simone specific questions.
Mum of two boys in Surrey
Thank you for fantastic workshops the weekend before last, and for all the downloads which have followed. Thank you for creating such an empowering, inspiring place for us all! At first, I thanked you for all the information you gave us, but when I thought some more I wondered what I’d said, because while I’ve been trying to understand my children (and myself) I can feel like I’m drowning in information – or would be if I created enough time to read all the books I bought! However, in your workshops every drop of information counted and was made to justify its relevance to looking after our over-excitable children, and so ourselves. Thank you for the immense effort you have made in collating a huge body of theories and knowledge and crafting it into workshops which were so alive and humane and intelligent. Thank you too for all you shared about yourself and your family as it made me much more able to absorb the ideas you were sharing – I felt how you had lived them and crafted them into your own perceptions and solutions, and how we must all do this to find our way through parenting our own kids.
I very much look forward to being part of the forum – I think its really great we have that. I will now feel more able to carry a sunny space in my hometown, and all the support it offered, with me!
Thank you for a brilliant day and huge relief to have such great insight into our children. So fantastic to know that you are there.
Simone, I really enjoyed working with you. I appreciated your input. I am a lot happier now that I have a plan for our future.
Thanks SO much for last weekend, just amazing and so much information!
Many thanks for all your research and for being so inspiring!
It was a pleasure to meet you [Simone] and to hear what you had to say. It was very informative and has given me much to think about already. Many thanks, and I look forward to meeting you again.
We really appreciated the session with you [Simone] last week. You gave us some much needed reassurance, and some useful new insights. We’re looking forward to the next session.
Griff and Sarah
Thank you for a brilliant weekend workshop. I got so much from it and felt so understood and supported at last. I am enjoying my power beads and have pulled lots already today!
The group clinic was very useful. All information was incredibly interesting & practically relevant to raising OE kids. I think this workshop will be life-saving! life-changing
A great day to focus on creating a calmer family life. What has also occured is more self awareness of my OE tendencies in myself.
Feeling I am not alone with my child.
Enjoyed very much mixing with other parents of O/E children. Enjoyed very much Simone’s delivery and insight.
Being in a space where I felt understood. Meeting Simone and her great answers to my questions.
Sharing and validating of our Overexcitable children, seeing their gift and accepting and meeting the challenge.
The workshop allowed for my experiences and struggles as a parent to be validated & understood, for me to connect with others I could share that with, learn how to make improvements in a friendly supportive environment.
Really feeling understood as an Overexcitable adult & as a parent – and really feeling that Simone has lived everything she teaches & having examples from her family
Very informative and Simone led great
Just wanted to say thankyou. You really helped me to see where I had lost my focus and to bring new understanding about the positive role grief and guilt have played in my relationship with my son.
After spending time alone on a ritual (which really helped), relaxing, reading, studying and stroking the rabbit I now feel energised and ready to deal with what’s coming. So as you can see your help has really helped me get unstuck and move on.
Mum of a 13 year old
Many, many thanks for your help, understanding, patience and the time you’ve taken to become so knowledgeable…
Mum of two children
I participated in the first Social Volunteer Day in Crediton, and I am very happy that my children and I came. I take great pleasure in being able to use my skills while supporting PowerWood, and I find that talking about, and reading about, overexitability both increases my understanding and works as a reminder of the challenges that we face, and the steps we can take to create the life that works for us, and also, focus on the gifts and uniqueness that come with these abilities. Participating helps me feel more normal and better accept and embrace our challenges. I get a better understanding of both my children, and my husband and myself, as we all show sign of overexitability in some way, and it is like finding the missing pieces in a big puzzle, that help us identify our needs and what we need to do to balance these.
Tine, mum of two daughters
After much research I was delighted to find Simone de Hoogh – who understood and was knowledgable about an unsociable condition which isn’t openly recognized in the UK. Within a few phone sessions my instincts and worries about my son were validated and I was overjoyed to have some knowledge and tools to build a game plan to move forward. None of the issues I was dealing with were ‘odd’ to Simone, some of which I was worried to share, but upon opening up I didn’t feel alone and realized these were common with overexcitable children and was humbled to accept this is my ‘new normal’.
As my children are young I know I’ve only just started this challenging journey, but with this new knowledge, understanding and acceptance, I feel happier and more confident to deal with my loving and sensitive son in a more productive way to meet his needs. I am comforted to have an ongoing resource of help from Simone, as I know needs and challenges will change with age, and my parenting education is ongoing. With humble thanks.
At PowerWood Camp we enjoy the company of understanding families in a supportive environment. There are fun activities to join in with, or you can go for a walk and enjoy the beautiful surroundings, or enjoy a chat in the coffee/tea tent. My daughters enjoy meeting and playing outdoors with the other children, pony rides, campfires and craft activities. PowerWood camp gives space for the grown ups to relax, as the children do as well. Simone’s (PowerWoods’ founder) workshops are inspiring, empowering and validating. I found it eye opening to learn about OE and other theories that Simone is working with. I discovered a new way to understand and interact with behaviours in myself and my children that are efficient and peaceful. PowerWood is a great community where everybody can be who they are and learn and have fun together.
Tine, a mum of two daughters
“Hearing that others struggle too with similar issues – reminds one to be gentle on oneself!”
“Sharing experiences and ideas, while having Simone there with her expertise. Feeling like I was doing ok, actually.”
“Not feeling alone.”
“Not feeling alone. The sense of belonging to a group and being able to support others.”
“Seeing and hearing from the other parents. Being able to identify with what their experiences”
“It was so good to be able to connect with other mums who understand what we are going through.”
“Fun and laughing while sharing the most terrible social situations.”
“Hearing from other mothers about such similar happenings in their home helped so much. I could see and hear the exhaustion, the frustration, the feeling different in the other mothers. I also picked up some new tips for various situations.”
“I like working outside in nature, it calms me down and gives me one day a week away from my busy life. I learn a lot about what is important when you maintain land as well.”
“I am well. Ive been doing a lot of thinking and understanding. I am now able to carve out time for me without feeling lazy or selfish (you are amazing!!) Thank you! I think some of it’s recognising the things that rebuild my energy. Some of them are unexpected (like digging the garden) and that different things matter at different times. Its all really obvious now I can see it but I couldn’t before. So thank you. Your book and your wise words really work, but most of all your patience in going over the same old ground until I finally allowed the message through. Its still not easy being me Im afraid, but it’s definitely better and Im getting to enjoy who I am again – a bit like being a child!” (mum of 2 teenagers)
“Great session and definitely have more clarity, though still lots to think about!” mum after a one off catch up session after two years
“Having a sense where others come from”
“Practical tips about how to enjoy over-excitabilities”
“The puzzle fell into place”
“Finally understanding myself”
“If you have a child and you feel all your best efforts to help them manage their emotions and behaviour are coming to nothing we would recommend you at least speak to Simone to discuss your concerns. Feeling understood and supported can go a long way in helping the wonderful, yet demanding challenge of parenting a child with overexcitabilities.” Mum of 7 year old boy.
“Simone did not offer us quick fixes but various parenting and family tools along with the hope that by utilising them we could positively impact our sons emotional and behavioural issues in the long term. She was very reassuring and down to earth about problems we encountered and extremely supportive of our choice to home educate our son. Indeed in this latter respect she provided good, research based evidence in support of our decision to remove him from school.” (home-edding mum of 2)
“We had Simone recommended to us by someone who had posted on the Potential Plus forum. We got in touch with her as we were having issues with our son. He has a very high IQ and it turns out all five of the overexcitabilities…it was no wonder he was having issues! We had tried all sorts of approaches and techniques to help him manage his behaviour but nothing really worked for any length of time. It was easy to blame ourselves for his behaviour and felt others did too. Simone really helped to ease that burden of guilt, showing us that children like our son need a different parenting style in order for them to be both happy and responsible members of society.” (mother of a 7 year old son and 3 year old daughter)
“I feel that I have not really learnt how to live, just to cope, and the process I am going through with you is like an unfolding. To be perfectly frank, it is quite depressing in a way as I feel I have lost so much of my life and have given my children an unnecessary burden. But, thankfully, you are giving me so much wonderful and solid support that the realisations I have reached and changes I am making are manageable and increasingly exciting. I just have to keep processing the new information to gain the framework and then implementing the tools you are giving me.” mum of two teenager girls
“It felt like a warm hug under a gentle sun standing in a field of golden daffodils! We are all working together as a family and slowly I am bringing in all your help and advice.” (mother of a 8 and 7 year old son)
“You have helped each one of us to grow beautiful new feathers on our wings.” (mum of two boys)
“I have just spent the afternoon with a friend who came to your London PowerWood workshop.
I had also recommended you to this friend. She loved it and you, and we had a great chat today, it was lovely to see her so relaxed and happy and so full of realisations and confirmations. It also prompted me to write to you after a long time!
We are all good. Our son is doing so well, and is so happy, and calm now that he is so trusted, and feels so safe and understood. He still has some rages from time to time – but we are all handling it SO much better using your techniques, our Buddhist practises, and the freedom and joy of unschooling.
I am doing really well with my buddhist chanting and feel a big shift happening there in terms of my happiness, and coupled with unschooling & the therapy from you [3 hours consultation], I think we are doing ok actually. (Mum of two boys, 11 and 7 year old)
“When I first signed up for the 3 sessions, I felt a little frivolous in spending the money. To be honest, I thought I knew quite a lot about this subject already. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I only knew an overview and had no understanding of the way the oe’s [Overexcitabilities] interact and frame your life. The cost of the sessions has been, without any doubt, the best spent money of my life to date. It has been transformational. Uncomfortable lessons sometimes, but always worthwhile. And I know without a shadow of doubt that I could not have got to this point of understanding myself and my interactions, particularly with my children, without your help.” (mother of a 13 and 10 your old daughter)
“I took away from the workshop how to overcome the ‘emotional block’. Also about how deeply oversensitive people’s emotions can be & loads of practical tips of dealing with real situations”
“I liked best Simone’s ability to make sense of complex personal examples and relate them to helpful behavioural models”
“I think the most important idea that I took away from the workshop is that maybe I have not got it all as wrong (so far) as I had been to believe by others.”
“It was brilliant fun and I made loads of new friends. Everyone was friendly and we made lots of things and fed ponies. I loved that we had a fire every night and everyone sat together and talked until it got late. The only bad bit was that we had to go home.” Mason (7)
“We’d just like to say that PowerWood Week really helped us as a family, It was a great atmosphere of freedom and friendliness, the children were safe and happy and we could all relax. It was so valuable to meet other families with over-excitable and gifted children and share experiences. By the end of the week we really did feel like a little community and refreshed, ready to put what we’d learned into practice ;)”
Mother of two boys
“We have never seen our son so happy and comfortable amongst people. It has had long lasting effect to his confidence and has led to him being better able to socialise and make new friends. We look forward to next years.”
“It was brilliant. I loved everything.” Rowan (age 9)
“I felt comforted by being among others not only with similar experiences but those who recognise their children as sentient beings and therefore treat them with the respect they deserve as they develop as individuals”
“Keen to connect with other parents”
“Will be at as many meetings as possible. This I find very helpful to all my family. great advice and great passion for all children”
“Very helpful to know we are not alone and to be around positive attitudes instead of constant negativity”
“The sense of belonging, meeting others, sharing”
“It casts an entire different light on our relationship”
“Sharing experiences with others”
“Very informal, able to ask questions, clearly delivered information and support”
“The ‘coming home’ factor. Other people who understand what I’m talking about”
“Informal, responded to participants needs & questions. Practical suggestions”
“Good visual representation (slides) Importance of discussing subject matter with child”
“Simone, Thank you so much for the recent workshops. You have completely changed my marriage! My husband and I now utterly understand each other. We are excited to try to make progress with our daughter. See you in August [PowerWood Camp]. Kindest regards” Mother of 7 year old daughter
“The informal atmosphere-due partly to small numbers and also the tutor”
“I really enjoyed the workshop and I feel so grateful that I know about overexcitability now.The information I got from the workshop is going to be invaluable to me and my family.”
“It felt so great to be in a room full of people who have the same concerns, and Simone was so helpful; she is amazingly informative, it felt like there was no question she couldn’t deal with. I really hope that there will be more get- togethers with Simone…”
“It feels like a taster – So much more to learn…”
“Tea – coffee, meeting others – support, insight / understanding of my daughter.”
“All most helpful and interesting, thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience. Mum of a six and four-year-old. !The practical steps I can implement.” Mum of a 10, seven and six-year-old.
“Simone – very knowledgeable and shared your knowledge in structured way so very understandable. Really liked the final exercise, where we decided how to make a plan for a child.” Mum of the 15 and a 10-year-old.
“Very well structured, questions well received.” Dad of six and four-year-old.
“Case studies made me really focus on what had been discussed- very practical way of turning the information into relief.” Mother of four and nine-year-old.
“I liked best the fact that I feel closer to my child today through a better understanding of his behaviour.” Dad of an eight and two- year-old.
“Just more time to go more in depth to creating our own strategy for moving forward at home with child – or a follow-up workshop in a few months!”
“I liked best meeting other like-minded parents and feeling able to express myself truthfully. I feel validated by meeting Simone, and the other parents.”
“I attended your workshop on Saturday , I have 2 girls and 1 boy. My son has high overexcitabilities in imagination, emotional and sensual and intellectual. I would like you to know how directly the workshop helped me and my son last night.
He shares a bedroom with his old sister because he fears being on his own. Lately he has been threatening to smack her in her sleep if she falls asleep before him. My daughter has recently asked that he share with his other sister.
Last night when he talked about his imagination to her she told him it was a gift. He replied that he hates his gift and he doesn’t want to be alive or in this world as he is no good for anything. I now know it could be hours sorting out a fearful hysterical and angry son.
I try to remember some of the things i learnt and luckily i did. Firstly he tells me i don’t love him, I only say to make him feel better. I don’t react much but just say I’m sorry he feels that way. Then he says he hates his imagination and wishes it would go away. I tell him that only people with the greatest of imaginations could have first pictured a space rocket and send one to space.( he stops crying a little to listen ) Then i explain that people with great imaginations have the ability to do so much good in the world . If there is a village somewhere with no water; firstly you need someone to picture how to bring water into the village. And the person who does this would have to have a great imagination. ( he stops crying and agrees with Me.) This was something i learnt on Saturday.
However then he becomes upset again as he tells me he made me a birthday card and its so awful. He’s done a picture of me and I look really scary with sharp teeth. He is distraught and wants it out of the room. He makes me look at it. I genuinely love it and can’t see the sharp teeth . He has seen it very abstractly and can’t see anything else then. Prior to this, now I simply explain to him about asymmetric learning and that one day his hand will catch up with his imagination, and that i understand how frustrating this can be , but keep practising and eventually everything will come together.This really calmed him down and eventually he went to sleep.
I want to thank you very much for helping me through last night. I was very tired and my husband had left for some time, I didn’t know i was going to have the energy, but the strategies you gave me worked so well I was able to remain calm.
Thank you again . All the best” (mum of 3 children)
“Love the fact that the view is taken that children with overexcitabilities are viewed as talented, gifted and special in a really positive way. I enjoyed it all.” mum of a four an eight-year-old
“Really helped me understand myself – I felt validated, heard and empowered. Love the emphasis on balance and intentions when parenting or trying to change your own behaviour.” (mum of the seven-year and four-year-old)
“I liked every part, more time to discuss examples and process information would be great, I’d gladly do another day on it! Thank you for a wonderfully informative day.” ( mum of 2 boys and one girl)
“The chance to chat with other families, feeling empowered and hopeful, thank you!” (mum of 2 boys)
“I like it that you do not set yourself up as an expert on my child but more of an expert in your field of knowledge & you are there as a resource for me. I noticed some new information that you presented & some old information that was helpful to hear in a different way. I appreciated that you said it once & did not go on & on about it! I appreciated that you understood my situation & I definitely felt supported & in a trusting space where I could say whatever I wanted as I released my own pent up emotions. As I said, I felt much happier & lighter at the end of the session. I felt a sense of being empowered & in no way did you try to convince me of anything. I’m not sure if there was anything you could have added to help me with my daughter directly, but whatever you did say or did not, it was interesting that when I got home I actually was really happy to see my daughter from school & enjoyed some quality time with her. So I guess you truly empowered me!” L. mother of a 6 year old daughter
“Thank you so much for everything you provided during the home-visit, it has been invaluable for us to have you here. We still need to work with all the material you have provided, but already it has made such a difference in our communication that you have been here, and given mostly me feedback. I had five days of bliss with both girls, I had a couple of episodes with my eldest, but even so, we have been able to get back on track quickly. I feel so empowered by your communication model, even though I still have a lot to learn. Already I am able to get to some frustrations that I experience that my daughter has, before it all blows up, and we are developing a language together, which we didn’t have before. I feel happy and confident again, that we can create the mostly happy family life that we are dreaming of. In fact, it is already here! So a big big thank you!!!” Mother of 2 girls
“I would like to say how hugely helpful and supportive Simone has been in moving me forward with strategies to help me and my daughter when situations become difficult. The service I received was warm, understanding and friendly.
I felt relieved that I could better understand and manage myself and my relationship with my daughter, and achieve the outcome I required. So THANK YOU Simone for your support!”
Mum of a 15y teenager, Surrey
“I found the session a huge relief, felt I had been carrying a burden and good to talk to someone who understood that I wanted to change things for the better. It gave me a lot to think about, and I’m becoming more aware all the time. I’ve been listening a lot more and more aware of what I’m saying, and how that’s coming back at me.”
(Mother of a 6 year old girl)
“I went to a workshop with Simone de Hoogh and was amazed about the level of information as well as practical use I took home with me. A follow up phone call with Simone has made so much difference for me in terms of understanding my daughters reactions (as well as mine). The contact to Simone has given me confidence that there is a different way of communication with and understanding my child which can help us have a far more harmonious family life. Thank you Simone :)”
“With the year coming to an end, I have been reflecting on all that has happened. Its definitely been the most surreal year of my life to date with a lot of change.
I truly appreciated your support, some of the advice you’ve given me and information you’ve exposed me to has made a real difference and impact in my life.
Thank you for being you.”
Daniel Michael Brown, 27 bratpresents
“It is a delight to have the opportunity to write a genuine unsolicited testimonial for Simone de Hoogh. Simone turned up in my life just as my business and I needed her; her help and advice have been transformative.
Simone has a a range of skills which together with her experience in business create a powerful combination. She has an incisive intelligence which cuts trough the confusion that can surround poor business habits. Her direct approach is as refreshing as it can sometimes be painful. In my case seh was able to cut away the old wood to reveal the essential creative heart of the business and the opportunity for new growth that had become overshadowed. Her sensitivity meant that she was able to read personalities quickly and identify where boundaries needed to be drawn and distinctions made. Although not a business psychologist her holistic view and wide reading enables her to function comfortably with personal issues, business related matters and opportunities for creativity overlap or hamper each other.
Throughout the period we worked together Simone maintained a very clear strategic overview that she never let be clouded. Having said that, she remained flexible enough to revise and amend strategy as circumstances changed. She had an excellent technique of identifying the critical tasks that needed to be done, setting goals and prioritising the sequence of delivery.
In conclusion, Simone has a great generosity of spirit. She has a deep understanding of life’s patterns and structures from the pragmatic to the intuitive. Her clarity of vision and directness, tempered by her caring and professional attitude enable her to deal with the essential and important dimension of business. I have no hesitation in recommending her to you.”
Frank Lyons HUMANE ARCHITECTURE
“Thank you again for all your help, we appreciate it so much Simone. We’re so glad that we spoke to you in the summer and took your advice regarding our child need to be accepted as male, it has changed so much in a short time but our son is a much happier and more confident boy and we can hopefully get him the support he needs before he goes through too much more. Never underestimate the wonderful impact you have had on our lives and the difference you have made to our son.” (Parents of two boys aged 7 & 9)
“Simone de Hoogh has been such a worthwhile help.
She assisted a teenager who was grieving for his mother and was unable to use his considerable intelligence to move forward in his chosen course at College. He had come to a standstill, was angry at himself and others, and was extremely depressed and frightened because he did not understand what was happening to him. He was convinced he was worthless and his whole future seemed to be crumbling before him. In fact he was displaying suicidal tendencies and was self harming. In an effort to help him he was sent to a specialist who stated he had ‘undiagnosed Asperger’s Syndrome. This was no help whatsoever.
Simone has helped him turn himself around; to understand what is happening to him; to find the courage to change and face up to things and most importantly to view the future with confidence.
We cannot praise Simone enough. Our grandson came to live with us after the death of our daughter and we felt powerless to help him.
Thank you Simone.”
“Having heard Simone’s presentation I gained a greater
understanding of both myself, for the first time someone described who I was and first time I didn’t feel so weird, I was me, asynchronous and that was okay. It helped me also understand my children and over the year I applied some of the understanding I gained.”
“The session enabled me to see more clearly what is happening in my family relationships. It has given me tools to go away with, to enable me to support my girls and myself on our asynchronous journey. Thank you.” (L., 45 years, female)
“The consultation with Simone was helpful as a starting point for exploring issues in my own life further and also in my parenting and my relationship with my children. There is always more to explore and deeper to dig to find better ways of living as an individual and as part of a family, but thanks to Simone for opening some new avenues of exploration.” (Anonymous, 40 years, female)
“I wish to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the private consultation you gave me, it was an incredible help. I think I can now be far more relaxed. Thank you ever so much again, you truly are a life-changing person. I wish we would live a little further to the south so we could come to your workshops on a regular basis.” Mother (41) of 10 and 12 year old boys.
“I gained a name and a voice for some things I had only touched on. So my understanding of my family has deepened. I trusted Simone and found her manor calm and easy. The advice I had has been intensely useful. Thank you.”
“Becoming emotionally in charge and having a strategy.”
“Making the link between anger, physical violence and past trauma was very helpful and realising the importance of sharing my past traumatic experience with my son. The reassurance and support was also helpful.”
“Reminders that everybody lies – very helpful in general. (female, 46)
“Setting up practical rituals as ways of dealing with problem.”
“Helpful to speak to somebody outside my family about family dynamics, to have an outsiders perspective to help with our day to day ups and downs.” (Mother of a 12 year old boy)
“Building a family ritual. How emotional overexcitability can exhibit and effect relationships.”
“Wonderful consultation, given me hope and understanding. Put things in perspective. Thank you.”
“Helicoptering, as strategy was very helpful, very practical with practical suggestions. Knowing what I was talking about – empathy. Thank you, Kim.”
“Just to be able to share information and being able to understand things better. Thank you so much.”
“Helicoptering, making my children take control of situations.”
“I liked the intensity of the consultation. Encouragement not to push our daughter to read. Reminder not to talk about our son in his presence. We came to this as a ‘parenting workshop’, not sure about ‘high able’ with reference to our children, but our children seem to show some characteristics Simone is talking about and it gives another perspective on it.” Father of a son and daughter
“Learning to control anger and frustration for myself and children”
“How to breathe out emotional sensitivity. How to avoid conflict in relationship –
calming down family time.”
“Establishing positive routines to deal with conflict situations.”
“Advice to use rituals to deal with tantrums. I think this will be very helpful. It was fantastic, thank you!”
“How to deal with perfectionism positively. The workshop was excellent Simone, very understanding and knowledgeable.”
“Meeting other like-minded parents and feeling able to express myself truthfully. I feel validated by meeting Simone, and the other parents.”
“I went to a workshop with Simone de Hoogh and was amazed about the level of information as well as practical use I took home with me. It has made so much difference for me in terms of understanding my daughters reactions (as well as mine).”
“Thank you for the wonderful workshop. I feel really positive about helping the boys and I’ve already had success with some of the strategies.”
“I like working outside in nature, it calms me down and gives me one day a week away from my busy life. I learn a lot about what is important when you maintain land as well.”
“Not feeling alone. The sense of belonging to a group and being able to support others.”